Over My Rainbow?
[Lahaina, Maui, 2018]
I’ve wished for different things over my rainbows and I
shouldn’t be surprised not all of them came true. But looking at this picture where the bird just
happened to fly in above, it makes me remember to be grateful for the things, I
received, that I didn’t ask for.
We can set goals, make plans and unfortunately, one tropical
storm might wash it away. Even the
origin of these hopes inside of us, can erode with time. But before we go count the wishes we’ve
received, let go, or held onto, I’d like to advocate one thing: vicarious enjoyment.
With my diet of necessity, I can’t eat the things I want
to. Forget meat, I love bread! As over-dramatic as it might sound its mild torture
having a basket of fluffy bread in front of me and watching it go to
waste. But what I don’t do is envy is the
person across the table for being able to enjoy something I can’t. In fact, I’m happier when they do!
The vicarious bread theory – sorry, I meant, vicarious
enjoyment theory can apply to larger things too! I had a friend who would get annoyed and/or
jealous when he saw a couple happily walking hand in hand in central park. Because I was, and have always been, a single
guy he seemed to think I would understand this line of reason. I did not feel jealous. and I don't think I was annoyed. The closest emotion I felt recently was that,
though I was just walking down the street, I felt like I was intruding.
Let's go back to central park though: assuming the man and women in question were
attractive to one or both of us, what does that have to do with something we
lacked? If someone were to take a snap-shot
and edit the photo in this moment of life so my friend is walking hand in hand
with an attractive woman, it would only last for that second. We don’t know this woman, the one she was
originally holding onto does.
He also probably knows her bad habits and has accepted at
least one character flaw. He or she
could have gone through verbal fights up to the very moment they decided to be pleasant
while walking through the park. For all
we know, that woman, if she was available, could be incredibly incompatible
with both of us. Friend, girlfriend,
boyfriend, friends with benefits, exes holding hands for old-time’s sake, all
we know is they’re sharing a small intimacy.
And let's face it the world can benefit from more voluntary hand-holding.
The tougher part is when you do know, and care about one of
them. Unrequited love is something that
I’ll discuss in a future entry, but today I’ll just share my opinion that It’s
alright to feel good about other people’s happiness, big and small. When it happens to us I’m sure we’ll want
people just as excited.
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